That's the title I wanted to use, but didn't, in a nod to this book, for my latest on my Forbes blog: "This Entrepreneur's Sex Toy Business Is All in the Family."
It's a really interesting story -- in part because it's about what happens when your father makes "pleasure products" for a living and you end up in the same line of work.
Another surprising piece of the story I uncovered is their best-selling product.
It surprised me, but does it surprise you?
Click here to find out what it is.
I think I read this when it was originally published in 2010, but I read it again. It is so awesome. And about an awesome movie. And everyone interviewed in it it awesome. Especially Marty.
Larry McConkey (Steadicam operator): The impression I had when Marty walked us through the Copacabana shot was that this is going to be the most boring, worst thing I've ever done. We're walking across the street, down the stairs, down a hallway, in the kitchen.... What is this shot about?
Yesterday, I wrote on my Forbes blog about a recent call to stop production in the adult movie industry due to a performer's possible positive HIV test. I'm also updating that post with new information and additional commentary from those in the industry as the story develops.
One quote that I didn't include came from performer Chanel Preston. During a phone interview, she talked about her work as chairperson of the Adult Performer Advocacy Committee and spoke to some of the challenges that face performers when they enter porn.
"There isn't any training in the adult industry. There's a lot of training that would be great for people getting into the industry. How to establish your boundaries. Navigating personal and emotional feelings you might have. How to navigate the industry overall. As people have more knowledge, they make better business decisions for themselves."
For those of you keeping track at home, to date I've received 734 emails from men who want to be porn stars. They email me because they read this article. Here are a few samplings from the latest.
Subject header: Yo
Message: I wanna be it
Subject header: None
Message: Dear Susannah lm a Zimbabwean man of 25 years old .black person l want to join that industry so everytime l followers xx videos are shooting thank you so much for relpy me
Subject header: Acting and Modelling
Message: Hi I am [redacted] looking for work in acting field. I am From India. My mobile number is [redacted].I the Glamour Field. I am a Handsome Guy. Sexuality is straight. HERE are some of my pics
Every month, I review the traffic stats at my Forbes blog. This is my latest.
Last month was terrific. This month was not so much. Last month, I did around 193K unique visitors and 230K page views. This month I did around 115K unique visitors and 140K page views.
Here's what worked and what could use improvement.
The month's post popular post had to do with soft-core lesbian porn. The reasons for its popularity elude me. Another frequently read post was about an MMA fighter on trial for beating up his former porn star ex-girlfriend. The surprise post of the month was about Wonder Woman's armpit hair. Frankly, I wrote that one without thinking much about it, and it caused quite a fuss, getting cited by the National Review and discussed for a full hour on "The Dennis Prager Show." Apparently, armpit hair on female superheroes is a must-click topic. I'll keep that in mind for April. I also wrote a post about some porny YSL ads that upset some Parisians. That post got a nod from the Kansas City Star. The post I thought was the most unique was an interview I did with a lifestyle blogger -- who's armed and dangerous.
As for what I can work on: post more, be more creative, write better headlines, do more interviews, be more daring, focus more on things that are fun, keep up the regular posting.
I'm noticing that I'm writing more about women-related issues, and I'd like to do more of it. In addition, I'm doing more hot takes, which is good, because that makes you a part of the conversation. And it was nice to get some media attention.
Yo, it's all good in the bloghood.
Final monthly stats:
Total Monthly Visitors: 115,545
One-time Visitors: 112,156
Repeat Visitors: 3,389
Current Recency Score: 74.511%
I did an interesting interview with a businessman who sells virgins for a living.
"What makes thinks exklusive? That not everyone can have it. For example a very old Wine or a luxury car which is just produced 100 Times. A woman can give just one time her Virginity and she hold it for at minimum 18 Years. Further demand determines the offer."
The interview was done via email, and I preserved the way in which he wrote it. He's German, so English is a second language.
Someone once called me a modern-age Studs Terkel. I particularly like when something is written in such a way to as exactly as possible capture not just what someone said, but how they said it, which is equally important.
In this way, you render what they said and what they meant.
I had fun writing a HOT TAKE on "Big Little Lies" for my Forbes blog:
Behind the doors of their picture-perfect homes and despite the amazing ocean views they can afford, these women are tortured and twisting, miserable and thrashing, torn between what they're supposed to be (mothers) and how they really feel (like predators). The pleasure of watching their lives and identities softly implode is all ours. If we can't have that house, can't we at least look on as they find themselves unable to enjoy it either?
I never really decided to read Ariel Levy's The Rules Do Not Apply: A Memoir. It just sort of happened. In fact, I never bought the book. I visited a bookstore twice and both times picked up a copy of it (a different one each time, I'm pretty sure) and sat in a chair and read it. For some reason, I read the second half first. Then I left. Then however many days after that, I returned, not really intending to read the rest of it, but thinking maybe I would, and then I read the first half. The book is built around a famous and terrifying essay that Levy wrote for The New Yorker in which she has a miscarriage in a foreign country: "Thanksgiving in Mongolia." I was floored when I read that in 2013. How could she get so raw? I marveled. It was like entering an emotional abattoir. But the problem is that the book feels like she got a book deal based on that essay, and then she sort of padded the book around it. The book is thin. I mean it's 224 pages, but it feels thin. It feels sort of hurried and rushed and manufactured. Maybe it was or maybe it wasn't. I wasn't really a fan of Levy's first book, Female Chauvinist Pigs: Women and the Rise of Raunch Culture, which was pretty much just a collection of essays, and was also sort of politically opposed to everything I was thinking at the time of its publication. She sort of paints women as dumb marks, but I suppose that is her opinion. In any case, her Rules book is about her unconventional upbringing, and her marriage, and her miscarriage, and how life can be happy, and life can be sad. Frankly, it sort of feels like "book contract fulfilled." I don't know why. She sort of speeds through life at a high rate, and maybe she doesn't want to think about the deep, dark things, and maybe that's OK if you want to write a magazine article, but maybe a book demands more. Or maybe her rules are the ones that apply.
Carl's Jr. is giving up boobs and butts for burgers and buns! What is the world coming to?
From my latest at Forbes:
In an interview with USA Today, Andrew Puzder, the former CEO of CKE Restaurants Holdings, which owns Carl's Jr. and Hardee's, who withdrew his name from consideration for U.S. Labor Secretary in the Trump administration, took a je ne regrette rien stance on the old, oversexed way of hawking Carl's Jr. burgers, stating: "We don't have anything to be ashamed of."
Hello my name is [redacted] from [redacted] also i am Deaf cant even spoke at all but im using communicate with hearing people use the note or phone either, i am [redacted] year old , i was born in [redacted] part of [redacted]. I'd like to join a porn star for sex make money profits that what i looking for , im active good on the bed with any girls . I hope hear from you again .
It's a shame more novels haven't been written about Florida. I mean, there have been, some. But maybe not so much. Instead, the gun-shaped state gets relegated to FLORIDA MAN jokes, alligator attack tales, and horror stories about its systemic abuses and exploitations. It misses praise for its geographical diversity, its colorfulness on a blank slate, and the way the water looks when it's just straight up still and there are dolphins diving through it in the distance.